For those who don’t remember this scene from the movie When Harry Met Sally, here are a few lines that amusingly explains on men and women being just friends…
Harry: You realize of course that we could never be friends.
Sally: Why not?
Harry: What I’m saying is — and this is not a come-on in any way, shape or form — is that men and women can’t be friends because the s*x part always gets in the way.
Sally: That’s not true. I have a number of men friends and there is no s*x involved.
Harry: No you don’t.
Sally: Yes I do.
Harry: You only think you do.
Sally: You say I’m having s*x with these men without my knowledge?
Harry: No, what I’m saying is they all want to have s*x with you.
Sally: They do not.
Harry: Do too.
Sally: How do you know?
Harry: Because no man can be friends with a woman that he finds attractive. He always wants to have s*x with her.
Sally: So you’re saying that a man can’t be friends with a woman he finds unattractive?
Harry: No, you pretty much want to nail ’em too.
Sally: What if they don’t want to have s*x with you?
Harry: Doesn’t matter because the s*x thing is already out there so the friendship is ultimately doomed and that is the end of the story.
Sally: Well, I guess we’re not going to be friends then.
Harry: Guess not.
This question has been around for ages. But it still makes our pointer land on the chin. Here I am, completely excluding the friends who are couples. After all your other half is your best friends too right? But for those who aren’t couples and still choose to be pals in spite of being single. Tell me what you up to buddy? :P
So you can absolutely ridicule to the idea saying your best friend is not of your s*x and you guys are nothing more than best buddies. But agree or disagree, at some point in your life, since you guys have been the emotional anchor to each other, share your deepest darkest secrets with them and times spent together have always been the great memories then you or him might have wondered for a moment ‘what if we were more than this?’ , followed by completely ridiculing the idea because either the feelings were not mutual in that moment or you don’t want to ruin the friendship.
We women can see some (unfortunate) men as our pals only. No romantic interest whatsoever! If you are nodding a yes then let me tell you that is straight out false. If you find him attractive, you are ought to give it a thought. If he doesn’t match up to your criteria, you can well honor him with the friend-zone certificate. That is the reason why men don’t like to be friend zoned by attractive women because they cannot digest the fact that some other man might be ahead of the race. A similar mentality goes for men too. Men don’t like to be just friends with women they find attractive. But it depends on the woman how she sets the boundary because obviously, men don’t find any reason to restrain if they are single and ready to mingle. Females are reserved in such cases. We need to think and over think before we jump into any conclusion. But then if a man is charming, smart, dependable, resourceful, adventurous, we do end up marrying him in our dreams. (Period)
Bottomline, sure men and women can be fresnds…as long as they find someone else more attractive than them ;)